About

the writings and musings of a high stone fem lesbian surviving the new century.

blog where I can quietly be emotionally raw about all my most vulnerable spots: my stone fem identity, the butch-fem dynamic, butch love and my personal lesbian history & experience.

| ofos | 37 | high stone fem | lesbian | sex worker | survivor | lover of butches | material feminist |

‘Why is your heart so soft?’
It has been trampled many a time.

— Noor Shirazie


I use the spelling ‘fem’ as a way of honouring history & the working-class roots of b-f culture that I share, and indicating my passion for the traditional butch-fem dynamic, in which butch and fem are inextricable from each other.

additionally I want it to indicate that when spelled this way, fem is an explicitly lesbian experience.


I am not a radical feminist nor am I anti-trans. I stand by and for trans women. I am also highly critical of the pressure cis people uncomfortable with gender non-conformity put on butches to transition. trans identity is real but we must also be aware of how internalised misogyny and lesbophobia play out in our communities.