it was my first fem friend who told me what stone butch was. she was older and more experienced than I was, who was just realising my femness, finding my lesbian desire crystallised in butch expression. she told me it was a butch who didn’t want to be touched or to have sex in a … Continue reading stone butch: from a stone fem perspective
I miss butches so much. I am only just now beginning to emerge back into the world after so long just outside of it. I have not been intimate with anyone in four years. I haven't wanted to be. the last time was with someone who was abusing me - a trans man I was … Continue reading
beneath you I am on my back my legs wide the heart of me spread despite how often I’ve been hurt there I pull you in as though you never could when they say I am not giving I wonder why all this is not enough.
The other day I posted this wonderful quote from the essential Persistent Desire. Today, I thought I would share a little information about the two impressive and inspirational lesbian women who wrote it. Sections in commas are reproduced from the wiki pages, which are linked below. Dr. Elizabeth Lapovsky Kennedy Born in 1939, she is a … Continue reading Iconic Lesbian Historians: Dr. Elizabeth Lapovsky Kennedy & Madeline D. Davis
identifying as stone fem is not so much about what we will not do as it is about what we promise we will not do.
like so many aspects of our culture targeted by outsiders, it’s been claimed as necessarily feminist to quit those quaint rituals of supposed heteronormativity, once again conflating butch and fem identity with typical straight male/female roles. the codes of ofos were, of course, already old-fashioned by the 80s, but as our culture began to crumble … Continue reading old-fashioned, old-school
"The key to understanding the butch-fem erotic system is to grasp that it both imitates and transforms heterosexuality. The obvious similarity between butch-fem and male-female eroticism is that they are both based on gender polarity: in lesbian culture, masculine and feminine appearance was central to erotic attraction. In addition, there are also more subtle parallels. … Continue reading